Comments on: My baseline, part 6.1: Relationships (part 1) http://www.developingmyself.com/2009/03/my-baseline-part-61-relationships-part-1/ putting the "personal" in personal development Wed, 08 Sep 2010 18:29:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: MarioG http://www.developingmyself.com/2009/03/my-baseline-part-61-relationships-part-1/#comment-36 MarioG Sun, 22 Mar 2009 18:24:03 +0000 http://www.developingmyself.com/2009/03/my-baseline-part-61-relationships-part-1/#comment-36 «After my divorce, I went through a couple of years when I was sexually available – and active, in fact –, but emotionally “dead”… or, more precisely, “occupied”, as I still loved my ex-wife and harbored hopes – naïve, of course – of reconciliation.» Been there… still there… Pedro :’-) After 5 years of separation. «Anyway, the acceptance of reality as it was, instead of as how I wished it to be (or dreamed it was) was the major step to being emotionally free, and complete, and able to feel and love again.» I didn’t yet accept. I had 2 relations during these 5 years, but the glowing candle of *love* was never there again for me :( And that’s how the spirit of love should be celebrated. With those tiny candle lights. I can just hope that this “project” of yours, will help you in your conquest for who you were, WHO YOU are and for who you want to be. In four words: to find your happiness. You’ll have to deny the saying: “a man cannot forget its foundations”, which is something I believe (can’t tell) shouldn’t be easy. I read your texts and see a lot of myself in some of them. Maybe they’ll help me, for I’d been a much happier person today, if it weren’t for some bad choices made in the past. Some of them, made 20 or more years ago :( In the end, I think, everyone has to carry his cross :( Best Regards, MarioG «After my divorce, I went through a couple of years when I was sexually available – and active, in fact –, but emotionally “dead”… or, more precisely, “occupied”, as I still loved my ex-wife and harbored hopes – naïve, of course – of reconciliation.»

Been there… still there… Pedro :’-)

After 5 years of separation.

«Anyway, the acceptance of reality as it was, instead of as how I wished it to be (or dreamed it was) was the major step to being emotionally free, and complete, and able to feel and love again.»

I didn’t yet accept. I had 2 relations during these 5 years, but the glowing candle of *love* was never there again for me :(

And that’s how the spirit of love should be celebrated. With those tiny candle lights.

I can just hope that this “project” of yours, will help you in your conquest for who you were, WHO YOU are and for who you want to be.
In four words: to find your happiness.
You’ll have to deny the saying: “a man cannot forget its foundations”, which is something I believe (can’t tell) shouldn’t be easy.

I read your texts and see a lot of myself in some of them.

Maybe they’ll help me, for I’d been a much happier person today, if it weren’t for some bad choices made in the past.
Some of them, made 20 or more years ago :(

In the end, I think, everyone has to carry his cross :(

Best Regards,
MarioG

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